Unfortunately… I’ve been in a dating drought. Haven’t been on a real date (an outing sponsored by a potential suitor) since November 09! Partially because I hadn’t met any guys that tickled my fancy, and partially because I tend to suffer from ugly girl problems. But it’s the summer, I’ve broken free of unhealthy relationships, and my new attitude has attracted a few suitors*! I’m not on the hunt for a relationship, but I like the act of going on dates. It’s fun and the crazier that dates, the better the stories for my girls (and mom). And, as I said, one step closer to better identifying THE ONE.
The thing is–I haven’t dated in so long I feel like a novice!! The “First Date Panic” is creeping up on me. I know it sounds all nice and good to say “just be yourself” but the truth of the matter is, I want to make sure I present all my best qualities, so that when my flaws and insecurities surface, the guy I’m seeing thinks to themselves, “She is pretty AND pretty great, despite that [insert undesirable characteristic here]. I’d like to get to know her better.” Now is the time to get myself together and prepare for conquering a 1st date to try and ensure that I don’t have to keep going on 1st dates, and move on to 2nd, 3rd, and 4th dates. So, I’ve compiled a list of 5 things that must be done to get me in shape for a successful through this summer of dating.
1. Literally get in shape
It’s summertime, the season to wear as little clothing as you can get away with. Why not work out to tone and trim the flabby body parts you want to expose and look good while doing it. Besides, working out always makes me feel good, gets those endorphins pumping, and clears my head.
2. Go shopping/Do Laundry
What good is a nice, fit (or close to it) body if you don’t have clean/cute clothes to show it off?? I’m known for waiting til I’m down to a week’s worth of undies before doing laundry, and even more notorious for screeching “But I have NOTHING to wear!” when it’s time to get cute and go out. So it’s critical I make sure my clothes are clean so I have options. And it doesn’t hurt to do a little shopping to upgrade the wardrobe with new sundresses, skirts, and fun colorful tops.
3. Get regular mani’s/pedi’s
Even if you do them yourself. Who wants to see chipped polish and crusty/dry/cracked/rough hands or feet? Fabulous sandals and open toed heels deserve to be worn by well kept feet.
4. Pep talk by friends (esp by those with SOs)
Nothing gets you more excited about a 1st date than a good girlfriend who just wants to see you happy, especially when this girlfriend has a good man and wants nothing more than to see YOU with a good man too. Sure, you may have single friends that offer great words of encouragement and get giddy about your new prospect, but some of these single friends are bitter and jealous and won’t be happy for you because, well, they aren’t preparing for a 1st date!
5. Be open to new activities/experiences
It’s always good to try something new. And you’ll make a good impression if you show an interest in different things that you might not have done before. My open-mindedness usually makes men feel more comfortable in suggesting doing something other than the standard dinner and a movie. I’m a sista who likes to give brothas some options so they don’t get bored. I find it to be quite effective!
With these things on deck, I’m ready to get out their and reclaim my championing place in the dating world!! Hopefully your girl Gemmie is as successful (whatever that means lol) at dating as I imagine I’ll be!!