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Motivation for Monday

June 6, 2011

Almost there; keep going.

As many of you may have gathered from my last few posts, I’ve been going through a lot lately. My heart is heavy and my spirit disturbed. I can’t quite seem to focus or find the motivation to get on my PhD-completion grind. My mind is distracted with thinking about everything and nothing at the same time. I’m at a place of unrest. And I can’t seem to snap out of it.

Well, as fortune would have it, the daily devotional I read this weekend from my main man Joel O gave me a new perspective on my own situation…

TODAY’S SCRIPTURE
“The words of a man’s mouth are deep waters…”
(Proverbs 18:4, NIV)

TODAY’S WORD from Joel and Victoria
All over the world, there are people who are lonely, they’re hurting, they’ve been through disappointments; they’ve suffered heartache and pain. As believers, God has given us something to offer them. We have life-giving, refreshing water in us. With our words, we can bring healing. With our words, we can lift them out of depression. With our words, we can tell them, “You’re beautiful. You’re amazing. You’re talented. God has a bright future in front of you.” Those life-giving words will break the chains of depression. They will break the chains of low self-esteem. You can help set people free from the strongholds that are keeping them back. You may not know all that is happening, but God can take one compliment, one encouraging word, and use that to begin the healing process and set that person on a brand new course. And when you help break the chains off of others, any chains that you might have will be broken off, too!

Today, choose to speak encouragement. Choose to speak life. Tell others what they can become, give compliments, and live life as a healer. Pour out that life-giving water with your words and watch it come back to you in abundance!

You see, my spiritual mindedness knows and respects the power of reciprocity, or karma if you will–you reap what you sow, what goes around comes around, etc. I have witnessed first hand that when I (or others) put positivity out into the universe, it undoubtedly comes back.

And despite my own personal issues that I’m currently struggling with, I want to make sure I take this time to make sure I speak life into others who may also be having a difficult time. Because these low periods are only temporary, and we will make it through to see the highs.

To my Big Bruver: You are the prime example what a good son/father/husband/brother/mentor/coach  is and should be. There aren’t enough compliments in the world to describe how amazing you are. The work you’re doing with your Young Kings is truly commendable and inspiring. I’m excited for you abuot your journey through grad school and all the great opportunities that lie ahead. Keep pressing and show your boys what dedication looks like.

To my besties A&A: You two are the epitome of a loving, healthy relationship. Despite the disapproval of your parents, you manage to press on and flourish in adversity. I continuously pray that the Lord blesses you and the family you’ve created. I admire your strength and courage to be who you are. #NOH8

To my Eva: You are beautiful both inside and out. You’ve faced a lot of hardship and trauma, yet you manage to be so kind and caring to even strangers. As you go through these next steps to becoming a healthy and healed you, now that you are loved and appreciated by so many.

To my KB: You are a go-getter. You have big dreams and a big heart. Though you’ve hit some road blocks along your path to success, your hard work speaks for itself. And I know there is something grand waiting for you to grab hold of it. Now may not be the time, but don’t give up and don’t forget how worthy and deserving you are of it. Triumph is right around the corner, I can feel it.

To my Nemesis (the Doc): You’re tenacious and hard working. You’re witty and insightful. You’re also very courageous to step into a new venture in your career. While what the future holds is unknown, I have faith that you will succeed and be fulfilled in your endeavors. 

To my new PhD Crew (Racqs, B, Mal): You’re brilliant young scholars with great work ethic. You’re good friends and great company. As you matriculate through your PhD programs, don’t let the failures and rough times get you too down. Just remember who you are and whose you are. You will succeed and you will prosper. I can’t wait to be invited to each or your defenses. 

I could go on and on saying good and motivating things about the many wonderful people in my life. But I felt the need to give recognition to these few based on some recent interactions and to who I felt moved to say something encouraging. So it is my sincere hope that these words are accepted as they were intended–genuine expressions of my friendship. And though I may not be in the best place emotionally, I certainly don’t want to project my internal misery on others. Rather, I choose to instead give love and kindness.

What are your thoughts on “speaking life”? Do you speaking life/positivity/encouragement to others, even when you are the one in need of such encouragement? When some one offers you unexpected words of encouragement, does it change how you feel about your situation? Do you believe in the power of reciprocity?

Be encouraged,
Gem

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16 Comments

  • Reply NY2VA June 6, 2011 at 3:00 pm

    It’s amazing how God brings random folks into your life. We only know one another electronically, but I’m thankful for you all the same. You will be blessed for your encouraging words, you will be blessed for your loving spirit, and you will be blessed simply because you are you. Thanks for being our GEM.

    • Reply gemmieboo June 6, 2011 at 3:07 pm

      is it your intention to make me cry? because i’m bout to shed a #thugtear while im at my desk.

      thanks chica, i appreciate your sentiments 🙂

  • Reply L Boogie June 6, 2011 at 3:10 pm

    Gemmmmmm….

    This post is so true! I truly do believe in the healing (and on the other end: harmful) power of words, and how something so simple as “You look good today” can have a lasting impact on me…and if it has that kind of an impact on me, imagine what it can do for someone else. I’m definitely going to keep you in my thoughts and in my prayers, and just know you’re destined for greatness, and that PhD will be yours before you know it…stay strong honey bunch, I love you! :o)

    • Reply gemmieboo June 6, 2011 at 7:09 pm

      thanks for the thoughts and well wishes. ima need all that i can get!!!!! #goondown

  • Reply Wu Young, Agent of M.E. June 6, 2011 at 3:21 pm

    Encouragement goes a long damn way with me. More so when it comes from an unsuspected place. I’m far from a cheer leader but when you know people are down or may just need a push I have no problem saying the right words to get them going. The universe tends to pay you back for that too.

    Hang in there Gem Jones that PhD will be on the wall sooner than you think!

    • Reply gemmieboo June 6, 2011 at 7:10 pm

      I’m far from a cheer leader but when you know people are down or may just need a push I have no problem saying the right words to get them going.

      nice words from some one not known as a “cheerleader” touch my heart. its unexpected and appreciated.

      thanks for the encouragement!! im tryna keep focu…. *looks off into the distance* wait, what?

  • Reply keisha brown June 6, 2011 at 3:30 pm

    *blows nose into kleenex.
    im honored that i would be in your thoughts enough to end up in your blog post. truly (#nooutrageous).

    im going to go backwards: i love how you ended the post. be encouraged. so simple.

    i can speak for myself when i say the best part of this dark period has been facing it and sharing it with people. not to garner sympathy and pity points, nor to martyr myself – but to know that i am not alone and that i am loved and supported.

    nothing is more powerful than knowing you have friends and family who will keep your faith, hope and dreams warm until you are ready for them again.

    What are your thoughts on “speaking life”?
    I try to do this on a regular, but of course, it is easier when life is going well. im am a leo through and through and emote how i feel. good or bad, i dont hold feelings in.

    Do you speaking life/positivity/encouragement to others, even when you are the one in need of such encouragement?
    Absolutely! Your words can help them, which in turns helps you. Especially if you do this freely without expecting anything in return.

    When some one offers you unexpected words of encouragement, does it change how you feel about your situation?
    It’s always great to get a different perspective. It pulls you at least 1 inch closer out of your cloudy haze.

    Do you believe in the power of reciprocity?
    Not as much as I should. Not always. But there are moments when people remind that I should.

    You are one of those peoples.
    *international, NAFTA hugs*

    • Reply gemmieboo June 6, 2011 at 7:16 pm

      can speak for myself when i say the best part of this dark period has been facing it and sharing it with people. not to garner sympathy and pity points, nor to martyr myself – but to know that i am not alone and that i am loved and supported.

      indeed!! i feel the same.

      I try to do this on a regular, but of course, it is easier when life is going well.

      same here. which is why when i read the Joel O daily devotion, it hit me like a ton of bricks. while im busy being discouraged and feeling down, i need to be able to speak encouragement and happy thoughts into others–esp since ive had many convos about ppl goin through some thangs lately…

  • Reply Phidelity15 June 6, 2011 at 4:04 pm

    Gemmie!!!!! Whyfore art thou doest thus to me?!? I’m trying to contain my inner goon and not cry but truly I don’t know if holding my head up is gonna work.

    I’m loving the energy and message of this post because sometimes thats all you need is a positive little boost to help someone make it through their situation or day. And not just because you gave it to others, but because you are such a darling person who is not only blessed but highly favored, you will definitely receive the blessings and encouragement you gave out in ten fold.

    And sawrah to sawrah, I think we both know that when things are at its toughest, and you feel like you can’t go any further…its almost over. The real test of your will, your strength and your capabilities always happens right before the end. Its in you to persevere because God would not have bought you to something He didn’t think you were capably of handling. The glory and joy of success and completion are right around the corner for you, but how could you truly enjoy it, if not for a little struggle? If not for a small amount of pressure? You will see and feel the difference of who you are and what you have become when you reach that next plateau.

    I will pray for you Gem, for your continued success and for your troubled waters and thoughts to be still.

    SN: You know how people are always saying let your haters be your motivators? Well imagine if haters put forth positive words, thoughts and energy like they did negative. If people responded more favorably to encouragement and not just “hate” We would all be successful #noDrake

    • Reply gemmieboo June 6, 2011 at 7:22 pm

      And not just because you gave it to others, but because you are such a darling person who is not only blessed but highly favored, you will definitely receive the blessings and encouragement you gave out in ten fold.

      *sheds single thug tear* you are too sweet. seriously, i really appreciate you saying this!

      The real test of your will, your strength and your capabilities always happens right before the end. Its in you to persevere because God would not have bought you to something He didn’t think you were capably of handling.

      even though i know this to be true, it bears repeating. its definitely something i need to be reminded of. so thank you!! and you’re right–the true joy of success comes when you know you went through some MESS to get there.

      thanks for the prayers and encouragement, sawrah!!! you da best!!

      and triple OG co-sign on the haters turning negative into positive.

  • Reply MsEvaHoney June 6, 2011 at 4:58 pm

    Ms Gemmie Boo,
    Why must you make me ugly cry at work? Thank you for including me in this wonderful post. What I LOVE about you is your absolute passion about everything. Reading your reponses on blogs, your twitter rants and our own personal chats is inspiration for me. It is amazing to me that though I have not met any of my e-fam, i feel the love from you guys. You motivate me to feel better, do better, and try harder. I really cannot thank you enough for that and your support.

    Now for you lady love. You are so brilliant, beautiful, and passionate. It is easy to let life get in the way of life. We all have had are good, bad, sad, and mad moments but we push on. I know I speak for the masses when I say you make our souls and hearts smile. Continue to so do the awesome work you do. Do not be discouraged. The children need your charter school, the medical field needs your yet to be discovered cures, and WE need you as our friend, colleague, sister etc. Be blessed! Love you girly

    • Reply gemmieboo June 6, 2011 at 7:50 pm

      What I LOVE about you is your absolute passion about everything. Reading your reponses on blogs, your twitter rants and our own personal chats is inspiration for me… You motivate me to feel better, do better, and try harder. I really cannot thank you enough for that and your support.

      awwww *sheds thug tear* im glad i can be part of that e-fam that can be there for you and keep you lifted up! *sings* thats what friends are forrrrrrrr 🙂

      and that entire last paragraph you typed???? put my goon all the way out on the floor. so sweet, and so kind of you to say–i truly appreciate it!!!! more than you’ll ever know 🙂

  • Reply Racqs June 6, 2011 at 5:38 pm

    Gemmie! I’m going to print out this blog and put it up on my office board right next to my favorite fortune cookie fortunes. Thank you for this. I couldn’t agree more with Phidelity15. It’s always the darkest before dawn. And even though you have all of these thoughts of everything and nothing at the same time, God can grant you the peace that you need to quiet them, or the strength to work through them.

    I think blessings aren’t always given as an exact replica of what was dealt out (ie. your tithing doesn’t mean you’re going to be blessed with a huge mysterious monetary gift), and I think the same goes with speaking life. Your returned blessing may come in the form of mental peace, or a new friendship, but it’s a blessing all the same. Many blessings to you Gem, and I know you’ll work through this hard time and come out on the other end victorious.

    • Reply gemmieboo June 6, 2011 at 7:53 pm

      And even though you have all of these thoughts of everything and nothing at the same time, God can grant you the peace that you need to quiet them, or the strength to work through them.

      true indeed. and boy do i need that peace of mind now more than ever.

      thanks for the words of encouragement and your blessings. we are in this PhD struggle together. and its good to know there are ppl rooting for me while im rooting for them!

  • Reply That Damn African June 6, 2011 at 6:48 pm

    Thanks for this, Gem. Seriously. I can always use a reminder to keep me motivated while going through the rough patches of this PhD life. Hell, to keep me motivated while going through life in general. I’m glad to have met you and been encouraged by your strength and character. Even if you never said anything encouraging to me, your actions and how you carry yourself have always been enough.

    As often as I spew insults and crack on people, which is a lot, I should learn to say encouraging things a little more. I know most people understand that they’re jokes and like Wu I’m no cheerleader (it makes me cringe), but when I know someone needs some encouragement I always come through. My trials have never stopped me from pouring into someone who needed it. The problem I run into is I usually miss opportunities to say something uplifting when it’s not obvious the person is hurting.

    • Reply gemmieboo June 6, 2011 at 8:00 pm

      I’m glad to have met you and been encouraged by your strength and character. Even if you never said anything encouraging to me, your actions and how you carry yourself have always been enough.

      this though?? omg i may shed more than a tear. thats one of the sweetest things ive ever heard you say–to anyone. thank you.

      i definitely understand you missing the opportunities to speak life to some one when its not obvious they need it. and thats why i think its important to try and be positive randomly and unexpectedly. because you really just never know.

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