As many of you may have gathered from my last few posts, I’ve been going through a lot lately. My heart is heavy and my spirit disturbed. I can’t quite seem to focus or find the motivation to get on my PhD-completion grind. My mind is distracted with thinking about everything and nothing at the same time. I’m at a place of unrest. And I can’t seem to snap out of it.
Well, as fortune would have it, the daily devotional I read this weekend from my main man Joel O gave me a new perspective on my own situation…
“The words of a man’s mouth are deep waters…”
(Proverbs 18:4, NIV)
TODAY’S WORD from Joel and Victoria
All over the world, there are people who are lonely, they’re hurting, they’ve been through disappointments; they’ve suffered heartache and pain. As believers, God has given us something to offer them. We have life-giving, refreshing water in us. With our words, we can bring healing. With our words, we can lift them out of depression. With our words, we can tell them, “You’re beautiful. You’re amazing. You’re talented. God has a bright future in front of you.” Those life-giving words will break the chains of depression. They will break the chains of low self-esteem. You can help set people free from the strongholds that are keeping them back. You may not know all that is happening, but God can take one compliment, one encouraging word, and use that to begin the healing process and set that person on a brand new course. And when you help break the chains off of others, any chains that you might have will be broken off, too!
Today, choose to speak encouragement. Choose to speak life. Tell others what they can become, give compliments, and live life as a healer. Pour out that life-giving water with your words and watch it come back to you in abundance!
You see, my spiritual mindedness knows and respects the power of reciprocity, or karma if you will–you reap what you sow, what goes around comes around, etc. I have witnessed first hand that when I (or others) put positivity out into the universe, it undoubtedly comes back.
And despite my own personal issues that I’m currently struggling with, I want to make sure I take this time to make sure I speak life into others who may also be having a difficult time. Because these low periods are only temporary, and we will make it through to see the highs.
To my Big Bruver: You are the prime example what a good son/father/husband/brother/mentor/coach is and should be. There aren’t enough compliments in the world to describe how amazing you are. The work you’re doing with your Young Kings is truly commendable and inspiring. I’m excited for you abuot your journey through grad school and all the great opportunities that lie ahead. Keep pressing and show your boys what dedication looks like.
To my besties A&A: You two are the epitome of a loving, healthy relationship. Despite the disapproval of your parents, you manage to press on and flourish in adversity. I continuously pray that the Lord blesses you and the family you’ve created. I admire your strength and courage to be who you are. #NOH8
To my Eva: You are beautiful both inside and out. You’ve faced a lot of hardship and trauma, yet you manage to be so kind and caring to even strangers. As you go through these next steps to becoming a healthy and healed you, now that you are loved and appreciated by so many.
To my KB: You are a go-getter. You have big dreams and a big heart. Though you’ve hit some road blocks along your path to success, your hard work speaks for itself. And I know there is something grand waiting for you to grab hold of it. Now may not be the time, but don’t give up and don’t forget how worthy and deserving you are of it. Triumph is right around the corner, I can feel it.
To my Nemesis (the Doc): You’re tenacious and hard working. You’re witty and insightful. You’re also very courageous to step into a new venture in your career. While what the future holds is unknown, I have faith that you will succeed and be fulfilled in your endeavors.
To my new PhD Crew (Racqs, B, Mal): You’re brilliant young scholars with great work ethic. You’re good friends and great company. As you matriculate through your PhD programs, don’t let the failures and rough times get you too down. Just remember who you are and whose you are. You will succeed and you will prosper. I can’t wait to be invited to each or your defenses.
I could go on and on saying good and motivating things about the many wonderful people in my life. But I felt the need to give recognition to these few based on some recent interactions and to who I felt moved to say something encouraging. So it is my sincere hope that these words are accepted as they were intended–genuine expressions of my friendship. And though I may not be in the best place emotionally, I certainly don’t want to project my internal misery on others. Rather, I choose to instead give love and kindness.
What are your thoughts on “speaking life”? Do you speaking life/positivity/encouragement to others, even when you are the one in need of such encouragement? When some one offers you unexpected words of encouragement, does it change how you feel about your situation? Do you believe in the power of reciprocity?