On Monday I decided to take myself on a “me-date”. I really wanted to see Kung Fu Panda 21 but none of my friends had expressed any interest to see it and I didn’t want to have to twist any arms. So I decided to go to the movies solo dolo. This was only the second or third time I’ve ever gone to the movies by myself.
Now, I don’t think a me-date is to be confused with “me-time,” where you take time out to do something for yourself, like going to the spa, hair or nail salon, shopping, a coffee shop to read, etc. I consider a me-date to be time spent alone to do something that you would ordinarily do in the company of others, like going to dinner, a movie, a play, etc. The reason I think a me-date should involve going solo on an outing that is typically done with others–be they friends or a lover–is because it challenges you to be comfortable being by yourself in a setting that is generally socially engaging.
I’m a very social person by nature and I love to talk and share my thoughts/opinions. Which, I’m sure, comes as a major surprise to all of you (LOL). As a social butterfly, I am constantly trying to get my friends or colleagues together to go out to eat, to the movies, to various cultural events, or just getting together in the comfort of one of our homes to [insert reason here]. I have great friends and I enjoy spending time with them.
But often times I think I use time with my friends as a crutch to not feel lonely. It’s almost as if I’m afraid to do certain activities because I don’t want to bring attention to the fact that I’m alone and my loneliness to be exposed. Logically speaking, I’m sure nobody is paying that much attention to my solo self, but my insecurities get the best of me at times.
That said, I’m trying to get more comfortable with going on me-dates. I’m usually waiting on other people to go out and do things of interest. And sometimes this hinders me from doing what I really want to do because I don’t have anyone to do them with. I’m missing out on so many great outings because I feel like I have to have some one with me to enjoy myself. Why can’t I take the initiative to do things on my own?
So, as a result of my most recent me-date, I’m now determined to try something NEW (no Sanaa Lathan)!!! While I was determined to spend last summer preparing to meet all these new men and go on all these dates, this summer I’m going to focus on spending time with me and enjoy my own company–much like Miss Patterson is doing in her Gigi Experiment. I’ve decided to take myself on at least 2 me-dates a month (more if the finances permit) doing things I’ve never done by myself–dinner at a restaurant, visiting a museum, attending a play, seeing a Cirque du Soleil2 show. I’m looking forward to getting out of my comfort zone and enjoying my own company out in public. So let the me-dating game begin!!! o/
What do you think about me-dates? Ladies, have you ever taken yourself on a me-date? Guys, is a me-date even something you would consider? Do you have any suggestions for me on places to go or things to do for my me-dates?
Starting a love affair with myself,
1I LOVED the first Kung Fu Panda (which my girlfriends took me to see for my birthday when it was out). The sequel was just as hilarious and cute as the first. I definitely recommend it 🙂
2If you haven’t witnessed Cirque du Soleil, you are SERIOUSLY missing out!!!! Please do yourself a favor and get to a show near you!! Well worth the $$$