Doesn’t anyone write love letters anymore?
This is a question posed by my darling friend in her Facebook status the yesterday. I immediately thought, “Nope.”
In middle school and high school, writing letters was the preferred method of communication. Of course, back when I was growing up, smartphones weren’t around, so texting/ emailing/ tweeting/ facebooking weren’t at the tips of our fingers. We did what we could with what we had–a pen and paper. I’ve received numerous letters in my day, from both friends and admirers. In fact, I still have a shoe box full of them, tucked away in the closet of my old room at my parents’ house. I wish I had them in front of me know to go through and give you excerpts of what the school boys were professing to Young Gemmie.
I don’t remember many details about the “love” letters I received. Some simply contained the classic “Do you like me? Check yes, no or maybe” shtick. Some contained poems. And I remember how adored I felt receiving and reading them. I remember feeling appreciated by the writer. These guys had taken time to write out their thoughts about me/us. And that was special to me.
Now, I realize in this new age of advanced technology that physically writing with an ink-dispensing utensil on a thin piece of dead tree is considered a bit old fashioned, time consuming, and inefficient. We have so many fast, digital modes of communication and writing a letter via the postal service (or even hand delivered) just seems like too much. But dammit if I don’t want an Aaliyah style 4 page letter as a woman in her late 20s!! #andibettergetitontime
Perhaps it’s the romantic in me that wants to read a hand-written letter by a lover or admirer. Ok, let’s be real, it is the romantic in me. And judging from many of the responses on my post about movie romances, as well as my brief convo about love letters on twitter yesterday, I am not the only one with this sentiment.
I find love letters such a sweet and extremely thoughtful way of expressing your feelings for some one. It’s not always easy for people to verbally say how they feel, and sometimes writing things out is easier (hello, look at me!). Even if the words you write aren’t original (but instead taken from a book, movie, poem) or well crafted, it’s the thought that counts. A simple hand-written note that says, “I love you. You mean a lot to me. I’m happy to have you in my life,” means soooo much!!! Sure, you could say this via text or email, but there’s something about seeing such words in a person’s handwriting seems to make it all the more special. Or maybe it’s just me. *shrug*
In all fairness, I don’t think it’s just men who don’t do this. Hell, I myself haven’t written a love letter since high school. I’ve sent lovey dovey emails/texts, and occasionally a mushy card, but no letters. But now that this discussion has been sparked, I’m itching to have a love interest, one whom I can write notes for and stick them in his coat pocket, or laptop case, or the packed lunch I made him.
But if I were to write a love letter RIGHT NOW, to my future “sun and my stars,” it wouldn’t be composed of original words from my head (I’m out of practice). I’d probably pen the words of poet Janette…IZK in her piece “I Will Wait For You.” Because I can’t think of anything more appropriate to say at this time that she hasn’t already said…
I will wait for you… I am bone of your bone, flesh of your flesh, Adam. And once we meet, like electrons I will be bound to your nucleus, completely indivisible, atom. We even speak the same math: One plus one plus one equals three, which really equals One if you add ’em. We were all created in His image, but you have the ability to reflect, project, and even detect the sun. If I were to explain what you look like, you would have to look like a star. A son of the Son. I would gain energy simply from the light that you shine on me. I would need you to complete my photosynthesis. I will await your revelation and once again from the genesis, I will wait for you.
What do you think about love letters? Are they overrated romantic gestures? When was the last time you wrote or had a a love interest or admirer write you a love letter (if ever)? If you don’t write or receive love letters anymore, why not?
Waiting on my future love’s letter,