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Helloooo? Is it ME You’re Looking For?

January 14, 2013

lionel richie

Mic check 1, 2, 1, 2, mic check 1, 2, 1, 2. WZUPPPPPP!!!!! Did ya miss me?? (<–throwbacks!)

It’s been awhile since I lasted posted to my blog. But this is my now normal MO isn’t it?? I post, then disappear for a month. Post, disappear. It’s what I’ve become really good at – I’m going to embrace it.

I could give my usual excuses about how busy I am, and talk about the high stress I’m under which keeps me from writing. But the truth is, while I am busy and quite overwhelmed with my current work load (MRI scans, data analysis, manuscript writing, manuscript revising, outreach program organizing, oh my!), that’s not why I haven’t been blogging.

I just didn’t want to.

I’ve had post ideas on post ideas stacked in my head – some of them I mentally penned to completion, others I wrote notes for in WordPress. But I just couldn’t bring myself to publish them. Part of it was laziness, part of it was fear that what I had to say wouldn’t be interesting to read. So I just kept my thoughts to myself.

As am aspiring blogger, I hesitated to start this blog because I didn’t think people would follow it. Once I started TWGS, I had a hard time maintaining it because I didn’t think I could please my followers. I constantly think I don’t have enough interesting topics to keep my current readers wanting more, or enough to attract new followers. I’d love to keep up with my blog and have it grow but I don’t know if I have the stick-to-it-ness and innovation needed to do so. SMH the struggle is real!

That said – I am looking forward to 2013 as a blog writer!! I have been presented with the opportunity to contribute to my all time favorite blog, Very Smart Brothas!!! How cool is that?? I feel honored and humbled to contribute to such a well-known blog. While I will have all the anxiety of writing that I have for my own blog, I’m excited to stretch my wings a bit and be exposed to a broader audience. It’s nerve wrecking but fantastic all at the same time!

Other things I’m looking forward to in 2013:

  • WEDDINGS!!! My bestest friend in the whole wide world and her partner are having a wedding ceremony in our home town and I will be one of the Maid of Honors! I’m honored to be part of their big day – I love those ladies tremendously and am so happy for the life they have built together. I’ll also be making a featured appearance as a Bridesmaid in another close friend’s wedding in Chicago. I’ll be one broke heaux after all these festivities are said and done. 
  • COMMENCEMENT!! I am planning to be hooded and walk as Dr. Gem Jones in my university’s commencement in April. The ultimate culmination to my long journey in academia. Can’t wait!!
  • CENTENNIAL!! Yesterday (1-13-13) my sorority celebrated it’s 100th Founder’s Day. Though I couldn’t be with my sorors in DC @ Howard University (the birthplace) to celebrate, I’m looking forward to continuing the celebration this summer for Convention in DC. It’s going to be B-A-N-A-N-A-S!!
  • THIRTY!!! I’m joining the 3 Decade club this summer!! Some women dread this birthday but I am happily welcoming it – what better year to turn 30 (and 100) than in the year of Lucky #13?? I get to celebrate with friends/sorors in DC during Convention – Dirty Thirty will KICK ASS!!

While I haven’t given much though to any new year’s resolutions, I am super geeked about all that 2013 has to offer. This year will be a pivotal one, as so many big changes are scheduled to happen for me. Last year was great and I have no doubt this year will be even greater 🙂

What are you looking forward to this year? Do you have anything exciting lined up for 2013? Is there anything you’re dreading (lol)? Fill us in – we wanna know!

On the move,

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  • Reply Wu Young, Agent of M.E. January 14, 2013 at 9:48 am

    Welcome back, N*****! I’m mean Dr. N*****!

    I feel you on not blogging. I took the last half 2 ought 12 off (for the most part) simply because I didn’t have it in me. Then again, I’ve always thought scarcity adds value.

    What are you looking forward to this year? Do you have anything exciting lined up for 2013?

    I’m looking forward to puttting papers on Miss Moneypenny’s hot a**. Proposing was literally the second hardest thing I’ve ever done but every moment since them has been balls to the wall awesome. We haven’t set a date but it’s on.

    I’m also going to finish my first novel this year. I’m not giving myself any other choice.

    Lastly, I’m going to continue give the middle finger to cancer, clinical depression, and anything else that vexes me.

    On the flip-side I dread nothing.

    • Reply gemmieboo January 14, 2013 at 1:06 pm

      thanks for the warm welcome, Keith!!!! its good to know somebody missed me lol

      if you’re not trying to make blogging your bread and butter, its hard to push yourself to keep up even when you dont feel like it. if you have a personal blog to just air your grievances thoughts, you dont feel as obligated to keep up as you would if you were getting paid or trying to brand yourself on the net. so we get a pass right?

      “I’m looking forward to puttting papers on Miss Moneypenny’s hot a**.” <– i DIED laughing at this. thats the best way ive ever heard an expected marriage being described. soooo happy for you – CONGRATS to you both!!! will there be a wedding? and am i invited?

      a Wu Young novel???? cant wait!! one of NBR's very own!! GET ER DONE, dude. i'm anxiously awaiting….

      fuck cancer and mental illness all day every day. in the meantime, habibi and i are working hard to make sh*t a bit better.

  • Reply MadScientist7 January 14, 2013 at 9:50 am

    looks like your 2013 is going to be awesome. congrats on being invited to contribute to vsb.

    i’m looking forward to lots of travel this year. spending time with different friends around the country as well as my habibti. also, i’m hoping i have a new job in a new city in 2013. i’m a groomsman in my cousin’s wedding. it should be good times.

    • Reply gemmieboo January 14, 2013 at 1:09 pm

      yes, it will be!! and thanks 🙂

      it sounds like you’ve got a pretty awesome year lined up also. a new job and new city sounds exciting – i wish you all the best on your plans!!!

  • Reply movss January 14, 2013 at 9:58 am

    As someone who hasn’t updated her blog in ages, I definitely feel you. Congrats on all your success lady!

    • Reply gemmieboo January 14, 2013 at 1:09 pm

      lol the struggle is soooo real. thanks chica!!!

  • Reply Dash Williams January 14, 2013 at 10:47 am

    30? That’s old. Did you march in Selma?

    • Reply gemmieboo January 14, 2013 at 1:09 pm

      30’s old but you wanna bang Sally Fields?? go away, Dash. lol

      • Reply Dash Williams January 14, 2013 at 1:22 pm

        Sally Field has aged well. The patina on the antique raises its value.

      • Reply gemmieboo January 15, 2013 at 1:04 am

        so what youre saying is that im not aging well????

  • Reply That Damn African January 14, 2013 at 12:08 pm

    I know about that “not updating your blog in years” life. For a second, reading this made me want to get back to the blog and put something together. And then I got distracted by a squirrel. Nice to see you overcome.

    I’m most looking forward to improving my relationship with God, paying more attention to my mental health concerns, and publishing my first research paper! Also, big booty hoes.

    • Reply gemmieboo January 14, 2013 at 1:12 pm

      ” And then I got distracted by a squirrel.” LOLOL grad school is a busy time to blog. theres always something else to be done, to focus on. but there will be times when you need to clear your head and your blog and readers will be there when you do.

      the relationship with God piece is crucial! habibi and i have put that at the top of our list for the year. growing closer to Him means growing closer to each other. best wishes with that.

      yayyyy for first research papers!!! hopefully when im in town for commencement we can celebrate our accomplishments *cheers*

      big booty hoes? always relevant.

  • Reply Phidelity15 January 14, 2013 at 12:25 pm

    Your 2013 looks to be busy..30 is such an awesome age I know you’ll have a blast bringing it in and all the little revelations that occur during that year. Self awareness may be at an all time high so don’t be surprise if changes happen. (Damn did I just give you a horoscope or sumthin?!? LMAO)

    But anyways my 2012 had so many highs and valley lows that I’m gonna keep the party going into 2013. I had a major breakthrough via a revealing conversation with my sisters and since then I’ve decided to go to counseling to deal with my Uncle and Grandfather’s death and all the other crap I never wanted to deal with, I’m going to take a leave of absence from my job with intentions to quit before the year is out (a sister is already looking for a replacement though!!) and finally moving back to the A right after I turn 31.

    So yeah that’s my plans. And in true me fashion all that ish is tip toeing on the drastic/dramatic scale. I’ve found that I’ve become complacent with what has turned out to be an unhappy life and I need to shake things up. I’m a little scared but my faith is strong…stronger than its been in years, so I’m not all that worried.

    Hopefully our paths will cross this year as it did last…

    • Reply gemmieboo January 14, 2013 at 1:16 pm

      when i was younger, 30 seemed scary. but im at such a great place in my life that i’m not afraid of getting older. i am exactly where God intended me to be – all the rest will fall into place in due time 🙂

      lol @ your horoscope reading.

      sounds like you are going to be making BIG moves!!! good for you girl!!! that’s awesome, and i wish you all the best in your therapy and plans for moving back to ATL. change can be scary and exciting all at the same time, and i pray you are able to set fear aside and let faith be in control. **hugs**

      and yes, i too hope our paths cross this year. i certainly plan to be in NYC a few times before summer 🙂

  • Reply Dash Williams January 14, 2013 at 1:29 pm

    2013 will see me be the best man in two weddings. I will give the same exact toast in both.

    I look forward to finishing writing “Ten Chains: Shade Tree Detective” and paying some graphic arts student peanuts to draw it.

    I also plan to thug in an effort to regain my street credibility, travel about these here United States a hell of a lot more than I did in 2012, build a hydroponic farming prototype, and make my first souffle.

    • Reply Wu Young, Agent of M.E. January 14, 2013 at 2:13 pm

      I’m here for the adventues of Ten Chains.

    • Reply gemmieboo January 15, 2013 at 1:06 am

      wow Dash – sounds like you got a lot of good things in store. im keeping my eye on you 😉

      like Keith, i’m here for Ten Chains.

      how can you regain something you never had?? no shade (tree), just asking.

  • Reply Msevahoney January 14, 2013 at 2:17 pm

    First off yay to the commenters on focusing on their mental health! That is so important! I am looking forward to continued weight loss. I’m down 36 net pounds since August. I signed up for my first 5k in Sept! I’m looking forward to vacation/wedding in the DR in Sept as well. Just turned 32 and feel like life is starting over for me. I have not felt this good since I was 19 and its because I am finally focusing on myself,goals and dreams. I am finally going to start working on my Master’s this year starting on my MPH. In the past I really wanted to be an MD or PA but I am realizing that I am not as keen on patient care as I once was. I am more interested on the why’s and how’s. Also on my list is reading more, going to church more, and perfecting my Afro. So much to do in 11.5 months! Can’t wait to have you in the 30+ club! Life is good here!

    • Reply gemmieboo January 15, 2013 at 1:08 am

      YASSSS!!! you know i am so happy for all your growth and how well you are doing. i continue to pray for your breakthroughs and successful pursuit of your dreams. keep at it!!!

      a destination wedding in the DR??*adds to my list of DW locales* sounds like lots of fun! enjoy that vacay 🙂

      afro perfection is key!

      and i too am excited to join the 30+ club woooop!

  • Reply fourpageletter January 14, 2013 at 6:39 pm

    i thought my google reader was malfunctioning! LOL.
    im very happy and proud of you! it’s going to be an awesome year!

    • Reply gemmieboo January 15, 2013 at 1:09 am

      “i thought my google reader was malfunctioning!” lol wow, really doe???

      and thanks sis!!

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